My boyfriend and their daughter have actually improper relationship?

My boyfriend and their daughter have actually improper relationship?

He gets her every and when he has her it’s all about her weekend. He takes her whenever she wants and takes her away to consume every dinner. This could be fine nevertheless the thing is we’ve been «dating» just over per year. We put dating in quotes because we’ve gone on a few dates that he taken care of in this time. I spend many the right time cause he is broke as he claims. he states 25% would go to son or daughter support 50% would go to hire 10% to church and 15% to their meals and taking their daughter out leaving most the time absolutely nothing. Okay i have accepted that but then there’s one other things. Just like the fact in his lap, holding her hand while he drives, if I drive he sits in the back cuddling with her, sit on the couch cuddling, they even hold hands as they sleep, he has her bed next to hers that he and his daughter 9 years of age always are touching, holding hands, carrying her, her. I’ve attempted to speak with him about how exactly uncomfortable i will be with this particular and exactly how personally i think like he treats her just like a gf more then a young child but he simply states never take on my child or leave my child alone. Is this normal? Am we overreacting?

Many thanks for all your advice it is extremely helpful!! No more that’s that put up a red banner for me personally. I am therefore pleased to hear that many think it is normal and then he’s simply being a dad that is good. One deilema down! Presently there is one more, just what do I do on how I feel I am treated by him with regards to her? He and also the ex hate eachother and fight all of the time, from the phone along with her whenever we are tring to obtain their child and she ended up being providing problems we thought to him just inform her to have house and I also’ll pick her up wanting to give him an easy method at me to shut the blank up cause she didn’t want to drop her off and my man doesnt have a car he yelled. I didn’t say yet another term and I also left. Personally I think like whenever it comes down to such things as this he tosses me personally beneath the coach. I happened to be attempting to assist him. And often times we do cancel my intends to get her cause otherwise he would not see her. And she adores me personally away many times cause he’s busy with helping a friend or doing church stuff and she doesn’t want to just wait around for him so i take her out and do fun things with her when I do her, I’ve taken her. Additionally there is several times he could not buy her meals and so I would. He has got been speaking about wedding and me personally being truly a great stepmom to their child but he makes me feel left out. I will be just requesting 10% attention when she actually is around. He will not even hold my hand. She shows me personally a great deal attention and affection like i’m just an outsider as I do with her but he treats me. She also grabed his hand and place it in mine before. Plus one time he has got yelled at me right in front of her cause we attempted to keep their hand then their child yelled at her dad not to ever be mean if you ask me. We felt so incredibly bad she had to note that he is that way and it also ended up being therefore sweet exactly just how protective she actually is of me personally. Anyhow my issue has absolutely nothing to do with her, i enjoy her, it is exactly how he treats me personally when she is around. Exactly just What do I need to do? Many Many Thanks once more!

Sorry to let you know this but i believe you are over responding. The things I’m seeing from your own tale is a guy whom significantly loves their child. This indicates for me that this girl means a complete lot to him. And its particular very normal.

My advice, usually do not place malice to something that your guy do in order to his child. He could be wanting to be described as a good dad. Assist him, never criticize him. Don’t u believe should your man along with his child comes with a relationship that is unusual he wouldn’t normally date you to begin with if that is instance? And most importantly, do not make him choose. You might be undoubtedly maybe not likely to be plumped for between both you and their daughter.

I do believe this relationship is only a little uncommon.

There is nothing incorrect with being affectionate along with your kid, but this seems to be too strange if I am asked by you.

I actually do perhaps perhaps not understand any paternalfather would you this type of things making use of their daughters.

I do not think its uncommon. He gets her only on right weekend? So might be he is attempting to make up for the weekdays by which he can not see her.

That can be its a bit too close but i don’t see concern that is much. The concern must be asked is, maybe you have seen more things that are inappropriate that which you talked about?

Acerca de Alberto del Rey Poveda

Investigador Titular del Instituto de Iberoamérica. Grupo de Investigación Multidisciplinar sobre Migraciones en América Latina [GIMMAL]. Profesor del Departamento de Sociología y Comunicación de la Universidad de Salamanca.
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